Love my kids, lots and lots and lots. But, I remind them often, I'm not your friend, I'm your mom.
They look at me every time like I'm the meanest lady alive. I could be, I don't care.
I remember growing up and my mom telling me the same thing, I'm like you're DAMN right you're not my friend (in my head, you think I'm crazy!?), you are SO mean mom!
Here's what I feel like and I'll break it down. The way I think about and go about it is this, I love you more than anything. If I pave your golden path and make life easy and hurt free, you are either going to live with me the rest of your life, or you're going to be the biggest and most entitled wuss on the planet. Both of those situations make me throw up in my mouth a bit.
I see it everyday. Bratty little punks that think the world revolves around their little bubble of a life. They are sassy, lazy, expectant, irritable, and zero fun to be around.
My kids are far from perfect, like galaxies away (me too) --- but GOSH damn. I am not on this planet to be their personal happiness advisor, taxi, or ATM. They need to learn, grow, stretch themselves, fall the F down, and get the F up. They need to struggle, to feel defeated, hurt, disappointed, and frustrated sometimes. Don't we as adults feel that ish on the regular?
My kids are still pretty young. Like 10 and under and we're straight up learning as we go. I think what it takes it lots of communication, showing them that they are loved, and relating to them.
I will say. Since having children, I've often thought about the teenage years. Do we kinda 'be friends' so they don't have to hide anything? Or do we lay the ultimatums and hope for the best? Tricky or no?
Having fun with my family is high on my agenda everyday. We laugh, we make jokes, we dance, we sing, we do lots of activities, but despite the fun, they still know. I'm your mom.
There is a big beautiful life ahead for you and I will forever be your biggest cheerleader, you can take that to the bank, but not my debit card ;)