I'm sitting here shortly after my husband left the house with our 5 children and the I'll f you up smirk I gave him before he left. Of course, he deserved it 😬
DAMNIT empathy you are always right.
We always hear that marriage is hard and for the most part, I don't think it's been too shabby. I'm more of the pain in the ass than my hubby is, but that's for another blog, AIGHT?
I overheard my 8 year old ask my husband today if his parents have ever had a fight. "Of course they do, everybody does", he said.
Then I yelled across the room to my 8-year-old, 'Do you think me and dad have ever fought'?
"Are you serious mom', he yelled, "Only like a thousand times!"
He's probably not wrong 🤷🏼♀️
I've noticed something throughout our marriage that has continued to stand true during the tough times.
THE LOUDER YOU YELL THE MORE HE'LL LISTEN.
Fine, that's not it.
It's not date nights or buying jewelry, or anything extravagant.
It's totally simple actually.
The secret is figuring out what the other person needs and makes them feel most appreciated and continually giving those things, even when you don't want to.
My husband is a master of appreciation and almost always goes out of his way to show me:
He'll tell me I'm beautiful when my eyes look like 2 pufferfishes and I have a face full of new zits.
He'll run to Starbucks and grab me a morning coffee if we're out of coffee or the kids broke the French press for the 8th time.
He'll give me a massage after a long days work and he is exhausted because he knows I've had a long day too.
He'll tell his friend I NEED TO ASK MY WIFE loudly on the phone so I can hear him and feel empowered. (Yes babe I noticed 😉)
He'll step in and handle the kids when my hands are thrown up and I've surrendered or I've got zero shits left in the tank.
He'll tell me 1 million reasons I'm amazing when I'm feeling defeated.
He'll stop and make me laugh when I am being too serious or annoying AF
He'll beg my girlfriends to take me out on a girls night because he knows that fills my tank.
He'll be my biggest cheerleader for my work, even when that means I need to travel regularly and he'll have even more responsibility.
He'll give me half his food when I can't take my eyes off his plate at a restaurant 🐷
He'll stop and listen no matter what if he sees I'm freaking out because he knows being able to talk to him puts me at ease.
He'll forever make adjustments and become the type of person he wants to be for his children - and they look up to him so much.
So, my delightful dumpling hubby. I love you and am forever grateful. Like every couple, we've learned, laughed, cried, and evolved. I just want to say thank you, your love and patience have allowed us to grow through it all.
Also, I'm glad you don't write blogs because I am nervously laughing in my head about what you would write 🤦🏻♀️
Thank you, thank you.
Xx, your magnificent wife
PS: If you haven't read the 5 Love Languages, read it. It helped me in all relationships, but especially with my husband.
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